Ok so here is some history so you can help to answer this question. I’m a 33 year old man. I have had struggled with relationships all my life. I fall in love quickly then about a year into it I get bored with the relationship and lose interest. I LOVE the spark of a new relationship.I am use to having 10 to 12 different partners a year, so that plays a huge part in why I get bored so quickly. I recently got engaged to a girl that I love ( we have been dating for 2.5 years now) and find amazing, we get a long perfectly, she understands me, but now I am having the some struggles as I did in my past relationships, I thought that I was ready to settle down with one woman, I really want to but hate to have this feelings of wanting someone new, and having that honeymoon feeling. I really want to save this relationship. Can anyone recommend some books that I can read to help me understand why this always happens to me.
Originally posted 2009-04-10 10:47:28.
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your scared of comittment and its something you will need to go to a therapist for maybe if you tell your fiance it might make it easier then to keep it a secret, Ive been there and therapy worked books didnt.
I wish you luck
God bless
This happens to you because this is your nature. Men are attracted to women for their survival and replication value. Survival being being the younger or more attractive female and replication, mating with that younger, more attractive female to produce healthier young. Its genetically hardwired for us as we are antique machines. Our brains working on caveman instincts, but in a whole new world. You’re not ready to settle down sure, not many people out there are. I would suggest finding a partner that’s comfortable with other women sharing the bed if that’s what so drives you, but in all honesty, I don’t think you should settle for something just because its what everyone else is doing. Whenever you find someone you are truly attracted too, then go for it.